Stepping off the emotional roller coaster of infertility

 sarah holland fertile mindset

I realise that you may feel in need of emotional support as you try to conceive through fertility issues. You need support that’s effective, works quickly and can bring you the peace of mind and positive thinking that you know is so vital to supporting your fertility.

Perhaps you’ve heard about how successful EFT is at dramatically reducing negative emotions such as anxiety, sadness, worry and fear. But you’re not sure how to learn it or apply it to your own unique situation, and achieve the positive results in your emotional well-being and mindset that you know would be SO beneficial.Well here’s the good news! I have developed a low cost, fast working solution to help yo u switch your thinking from negative to positive, and support you in a multitude of ways as you try to conceive your baby.I know what an emotional roller coaster it can be when you have fertility issues, and I’d like to invite you now to take my hand as a support you stepping off the roller coaster and on to a much smoother, easier to navigate path.What am I talking about? Click below to find out!
Don’t delay in clicking above and making a decision whether to sign up. There are only limited spaces available, and the ‘early bird’ booking price ends soon. PLUS if you’re one of the next few to sign up you’ll be able to grab one of the remaining chances to have a private one-to-one telephone session with me, to work on a key emotional issue for you.

I look forward to you joining me on this exciting adventure!

With love and best wishes on your fertility journey,

Sarah Holland
Fertility Support Specialist

London yoga classes – Womb Yoga – SE17


Going on from what I was saying about yoga for fertility in my earlier post, I thought this might interest people as I literally just stumbled upon it on a yoga website.

” This integrated and harmonious approach to hatha yoga is especially developed to bring comfort and joy to women. It is suited to all women, with or without previous experience of yoga. Women of all ages are welcome, whether you are complete beginners or super-experienced yoginis or yoga teachers. In fact, any woman who would like a feminine, nourishing and fluid practice with elegant movement flows, delicious breath work, resonant sound, and deep healing relaxation is invited to join her sisters for this women-only class.”

More information on these two websites.

Probably a bit far for anyone in Nottingham -but figured it might help some one

What are you going to do to have fun ?

It is a gorgeous sunny morning again here today-it has been a great September so far .

As it is Friday, I am thinking about what we are going to do for the weekend to have some fun & relaxation. We all need some fun in our lives whatever else is going on.

Trying to conceive can be great fun (unprotected sex for starters) but when things do not happen quickly or there are problems, it can turn something that was fun into a cause of stress.

At times of stress it is particularly important to find ways of putting fun back into our lives & also making time to relax.

How you do this varies from person to person. The first thing is to recognise that you need this.

Fun & laughter releases endorphins that make us feel positive and that life is worth living. Without fun in our lives things can become very montonous.

First thing is to make time for fun-avoid overscheduling yourself with things that are not fun.

Make having some fun a priority-even if its just 5 minutes a day.

Plan today what you are going to do as a couple to have some fun this coming weekend.

Here are some suggestions for September weekend fun:

  • A long lie in Saturday morning reading magazines in bed
  • Breakfast in bed
  • A long walk in the sun together
  • A bike ride
  • Blackberry picking & making jam
  • Lunch out together
  • Gardening together-maybe plant some bulbs
  • Cook together
  • A long hot bubble bath (maybe together)
  • Watch a good film or some tv- the X factor is great fun
  • Just for fun sex

These are just a few ideas, yours may be very different-whatever is fun for you

 Have a great weekend.

Another guest blogger saying hello

Hi, I am Lisa Marsh, of Your Great Life, saying my own hello as a guest blogger. I will be writing from the perspective of someone who has experienced both recurrent miscarriage and secondary infertility in the past. I have been incredibly fortunate to have two healthy children within the seven years of TTC and am not planning to have any more children. I hope that my experience will be inspiring to some of you.

As a direct result of my personal experiences in this area, I went on to train as a life coach and as a miscarriage helpline volunteer. I run a miscarriage support group and find that issues of infertility are entwined with miscarriage, such as PCOS, in the members’ reproductive health. I am now devoting my entire professional practice to fertility clients, starting with TTC and continuing into the loss of fertility due to ageing (menopause), disease and chemotherapy.

I am really looking forward to being a part of this forum. Please give me some feedback on my blogs and let me know what you want to hear about.

Are you feeling in a rut-lets spice things up by doing things differently

Sometimes life can get monotonous, and we all need to change things around a bit.

The best example of this is in our diets-so many of us eat the same things week in week out-this can get kind of boring, but it is easy which is why we do it.

I am going to post some simple & inexpensive ideas later for doing things differently, that help to give us a boost and get us out of our comfortable little ruts, and will help to bring your va va voom back.

  • buy a different magazine or newspaper this week
  • start listening to a different radio program
  • listen to different music-borrow a new cd from friend or library
  • try some differnet food-something you would not usually eat
  • go somewhere new
  • take the scenic route to work
  • try a new sport
  • do something creative that you do not normal do-garden, paint, draw, pottery, plant a lovely summer container up
  • go to a live sports event & watch
  • do something in your home -touch up your paintwork, redecorate, paint the garden furniture, clear ou the garage, do some diy, re-arrange a room, read a feng shui book & implement something from it. Do something you would not normally do
  • do something for charity-have a big closet clearout & donate to charity, donate all the books you have read, go and help at a local charity
  • start a journal, blog or diary
  • write a story, any subject, any length
  • exercise-do something different-swimming, tennis, badmington, squash, go for a run, walk a neighbours dog
  • go to the cinema to see a new film by yourself or with a girlfriend
  • contact a long lost friend or relation
  • go shopping somewhere different
  • go to a museum, art gallery or exhibition
  • shift:sit in a different place to your usual one.(at mealtimes, in meeting, in the lounge, anywhere you have a habitual place to sit)
  • broken friendships-make the first move to repair the damage
  • ride a bike
  • play a childs game-garden cricket is great fun at this time of year, short tennis. monopoly
  • learn to meditate-get a cd, try yoga, read a book on relaxation
  • drive less aggressively

These ideas are taken from the book ‘The No Diet Do Something Different Diet’

For more info on the no diet diet click on link below

Did you have some fun in the bedroom this weekend ? Are you taking care of you ?

Hope you all had a good bank holiday weekend despite the rain on Monday.

This week we are going to focus on you.

Are you making time to love yourself ?

Ask yourself these questions:

1) Am I taking my folic acid ? (if trying to conceive or in early pregnancy)

2) Am I getting enough sleep ? Rest is so important for our health, brains & bodies. It is like recharging a battery. A good nights sleep makes such a difference to your well being. Try to get at least 8 hours sleep every night. Avoid staying up late watching tv-it will all be repeated or you catch up on iplayer. Added bonus is you will have more sex & bettter sex if you go to bed early.

3) Am I taking care of my health needs ? Do I need to book a dental check, drs appt, smear test etc. it is best to get all these things done now. stop procrastinating.

4) Am I eating healthy food ? Your body deserves to have good food as fuel. Make sure you eat plenty of fruit & veg. cut down on the junk-you are just hurting you.

5) Am I exercising regularly ? You dont need to join a gym-just move more. Exercise releases happy chemicals (similar to sex in some ways) which improve your happiness & health in lots of ways. Get more active in all sorts of ways. You could even try being more active in the bedroom, instead of just lying there ! Walking is great exercise & costs nothing. Walk every day, even if its just round the block. Get active when you are watching tv-iron while you watch tv, or every time the ads come on, get up and do something-tidy up, put a load of laundrey on, get in your jammies, just do something.

6) Am I making time for self care ? Do you need to schedule a hair appt? Take time to do nice things for your self-book a manicure or pedicure or do one at home-they are really easy. Make time every day to take care of you. The little things make such a difference-just washing your hair and taking the time to blow dry it makes you feel good.

Make the time to fill yourself up

Hi everyone,

Hope you’ve had a good spring/Easter break.

 I have had a couple of days at the coast and while I was there I listened to the great John Gray on my ipod. I have all his audio books downloaded from itunes. I love to listen to them on long journeys.

This holiday I have been listening to ‘when mars and venus collide’ which gives great insite into why men and women fall out and how to avoid fights .

A big part of this is not expecting your man to ‘fill you up’. We need to learn how to fill ourselves up and not to expect our partners to do this for us.

There is a list of about 100 ways to do this and they are all fun.

Here are some examples:

  • take a long soak in the bath
  • talk with girlfriends
  • have a manicure or pedicure
  • have a facial
  • have a massage
  • read a good book

I highly recomend the book-a great listen for a long journey