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Your Weight Could Be a Fertility Issue
25/11/2009 by yourgreatlife.
Have you considered your weight as one of the possible obstacles to your dreams of having a baby? This isn’t about being fat or skinny; no judgment about your appearance is being made. Your weight can play a significant part in the ability of your body to ovulate, produce quality eggs and maintain a healthy pregnancy, especially if you are extremely underweight or overweight.
You may already have some idea about your weight’s impact on your reproductive system if you have had irregular menstrual periods, the onset of a thyroid condition or polycystic ovary syndrome (PCOS) or vitamin deficiencies. What you may not know is that very overweight or underweight women have a much lower chance of conceiving, even with fertility treatment. As a result, many fertility specialists won’t take on a patient who wouldn’t benefit as much from their help and/or whose unsuccessful treatment would affect their success ratings.
Many clinics will use your weight, or Body Mass Index (BMI), as criteria for accepting you as a patient. There is no hard and fast rule on this because one athletic woman with developed musculature can weigh more and carry less fat than another woman of similar age and height. BMI of 19 – 24 is considered normal and 25 – 29 overweight. If either your weight or BMI falls under 19 or above 29, you may encounter a delay in being accepted for treatment, with instructions to lose or gain weight before coming back. Whether you are still trying to become pregnant naturally, or if fertility treatment is your next step and your weight is a possible issue, here are some steps that you can follow to move forward with your family plan.
Your Attempts to Conceive Keep notes, not only of your weight, but also how often you have a period and how often and when you have sexual intercourse without the use of contraceptive devices. There are books available that provide a structure for tracking essential information for fertility, but any journal or notebook will do.
Identify Your Obstacles See your doctor to identify whether your current weight is a possible obstacle to conception. You must be forthcoming about your pattern of weight gain and loss, your eating habits and any extreme dieting or exercising you have done, even if you find these topics embarrassing. You may be tested for high or low blood pressure, thyroid function, diabetes, vitamin and mineral deficiencies and the level of oestrogen you are producing.
Eating Disorders Serious eating disorders such as anorexia, bulimia, and extreme compulsive overeating require medical supervision, structured programs and counselling over a lengthy period to ensure and support recovery. Anorexia and obesity can both affect ovarian function adversely and bulimia is linked to PCOS, so pregnancy is unlikely, though not impossible. If you do conceive while battling an eating disorder, it could impact negatively upon the baby’s ability to thrive as well as your own health. Think about everything you eat and drink passing to the baby in your womb, though in a slightly different form. Not only nutrients are taken in by the baby, but also the high calorie/ high sugar and high fat content of your less nutritious food.
Recovery from an eating disorder can be a long and difficult process; it’s not only about what you eat, but also why you eat it that needs to be determined. The destructive cycle of thought and behaviour has to be broken and relearned in a positive way. The baby will be dependant upon you and require a fully present parent.
Eating disorders actually require an enormous amount of mental energy, planning the next binge, the next purge (self-induced vomiting) or how to avoid eating without anyone else noticing. These disorders are nearly always accompanied by some degree of self-hatred. Dissatisfaction with the sufferer’s appearance, social relationships and/or self-belief fuels the fire and that brings on more irrational and dangerous behaviour.
If you think, or know, that you have an undiagnosed eating disorder, don’t waste a minute before you consult a doctor. I am not minimizing the difficulty in admitting it to oneself; it will take courage and commitment.
Your GP can probably refer you to a specialist medical unit where counselling and other practical assistance is offered. There are also many groups where you can meet with people who have experienced similar disorders and receive confidential support.
Lifestyle Changes for Self-CareYour health is vital before, during and after you conceive, carry and deliver your baby. You can’t breathe a sigh of relief upon conceiving and then let yourself go to pot. Bad habits don’t disappear overnight, so get working on them immediately.
If your current weight is due to poor diet, lack of exercise, smoking or over-consumption of alcohol, a nutritionist and an experienced personal trainer can advise on necessary changes in your lifestyle. This is no time for a crash diet or the use of over-the-counter weight-loss or weight-gain drugs or powdered drink mixes. Don’t put all of yourself into a weight-loss or weight-gain scheme just to win the approval of your RE, only to let it all go back the way it had been afterward. Careless indulgence in bad habits means that you aren’t prioritizing self-care.
How fit you are will also determine how you carry a pregnancy. Over the nine months, you may be carrying anywhere between 18 and 45 extra pounds, putting extra pressure on your skin, muscles, veins, spine, breasts and joints. Stretch marks only mar the surface of your body, but varicose veins can result from carrying too much weight and excess blood flow during pregnancy and knee trouble is quite common in obese women. That’s just during pregnancy.
Then comes the aftermath: life with baby. Think about how often mothers have to bend over, crouch down on the floor, get in and out of the car or bus, lift car seats and play cots and balance a baby on one hip. If you were quite overweight before conceiving, and continue your poor habits, you could easily find yourself 75 to 100 pounds above your optimal weight before you give birth.
Trading One Habit for Another Keep in mind that what you ingest (not just food) during pregnancy and breastfeeding, your baby will too. Do not consider turning to cigarettes, alcohol or caffeinated, artificially sweetened soft drinks to help you avoid eating. Nicotine and damaged lung tissue stay in your system for a very long time. Smoking itself can cause low birth weight and nicotine addiction in newborns. Alcohol could result in your baby being born with Foetal Alcohol Syndrome, which could cause low birth weight, developmental problems or epilepsy among other symptoms that could affect him for life. The soft drinks will just fill you up, make you gassy and add no nutrition relative to the volume you consume. Since you need extra nutrients for optimal health at conception, don’t waste space on junk drinks.
Your Motivation Finding the motivation to change your behaviour should be simple because you already have a goal in mind. You want to become pregnant and give birth to a healthy baby. Use that goal as motivation to change your attitudes and behaviour. Think of yourself as a healthy vessel for conceiving, carrying and then caring for your child. When you are on the verge of bingeing, skipping a meal or eating junk food, consider how that would impact upon your weight and health and ultimately upon your attempts to conceive.
Your Plan Bad habits take a long time to embed, so they are not going to change over night. If you and your doctor believe that you can make positive weight changes yourself, formulate your own structured plan. Write down your:
- specific weight,
- a realistic time frame,
- a list of quality foods in moderate quantities and
- the exercise you will do to boost your health and strength
- other healthy strategies to achieving your goal weight.
Keep track of your efforts and your achievements as you move toward your goal. While there may be other obstacles to conceiving a healthy pregnancy, if you persevere, you will have eliminated weight as one of them.
Lisa Marsh is a qualified life coach in
London, UK, specializing in Fertility and Miscarriage Support. She is dedicated to educating and supporting men and women concerned with reproductive health, infertility, fertility treatment and all forms of family building.
To find out more about Lisa and her work as a fertility coach, visit her blog at http://yourgreatlife.typepad.com/. She can be contacted at 020 8954 2897 or lisa@yourgreatlife.co.uk for coaching, article writing or speaking engagements. You can also follow her on Twitter for Fertility and Miscarriage Support Tips at http://twitter.com/yourgreatlife .
Posted in Weight loss, fertility coach, Fertility & weight, female fertility, PCOS, Fertility, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, Fertility Advice | 2 Comments »
Hypnosis and Fertility
16/11/2009 by amymarner.
Hypnosis is a natural state that we all enter daily. It’s those times when your imagination is active, so watching a film or reading a book. If you are immersed in the story and your imagination is involved that is hypnosis. You are completely in control and free to leave it at anytime. Our subconscious does not know the difference between our imagination and reality so we can use our imagination to access the subconscious and create what we want in our lives.
Using hypnosis is a great way to address fertility, because we can access our imagination and address what is going on in our subconscious. For example we may have spent years trying not to get pregnant, our subconscious may not have caught up with our new plans to start a family so using the imagination we can show the subconscious what we really want and it can catch up. This then supports our body to conceive.
We may often have negative thoughts running through our minds, worry creating more worry and affecting our well-being. Our negative thoughts can affect our hormonal balance but with hypnosis it is possible to bring them back to a healthy equilibrium therefore supporting conception.
Fertility Solutions hypnosis CDs have been developed by Tracy Holloway (a qualified hypnotherapist and renowned fertility specialist) in order to prepare the subconscious mind for conception. The powerful CDs begin with deep relaxation; this prepares your mind for suggestion and supports you to release stress. Once you have listened for at least a week to the first CD you can move on to the next. Each one brings you relaxation and prepares the body for conception. Some are designed specifically for those who are planning to conceive naturally, others support assisted conception and there are also CDs for those who have experienced miscarriage and fear their body cannot support a healthy baby.
These powerful CDs go hand in hand with the Fertility Solutions Programme but can also be very effective in their own right. For more details and to buy online click here.
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Facing Many Crossroads, Together
03/11/2009 by yourgreatlife.
Part Two: Coming upon a Crossroads, What You Need To Make Your Decisions
The first crossroads is likely to be when you decide to see the doctor because, despite your efforts, you have not conceived. It isn’t everyone’s cup of tea, or culture, to expose their intimate life to the scrutiny of doctors or undergo blood tests and scans, checking for something “wrong.” Some uninformed men may be unwilling to provide a semen sample, for fear of what the results may suggest about his manliness.
Both the woman and man may feel some anxiety about whose family line may be to “blame” for their inability to become pregnant. If this pertains to you or your partner, you must cast these outdated stigmas aside and take some relatively simple tests to discover the cause of your infertility. If having a baby is your ultimate goal, your value system may have to adapt to accept the help that modern medicine and technology offer.
The second crossroads is deciding whether to pursue more invasive medical investigations and/or treatment. With a clear diagnosis and readily available treatment, it is easier to decide what to do because the options are more clearly set out. Your personal life may present the deciding factor: your relationship, finances, career, religion or emotional wellbeing may all be taken into consideration. Many couples have to contend with unexplained infertility, where early test results were ambiguous. If you (or your doctor) are operating in the dark, it won’t do much for your confidence. In this case, the dilemma about which treatment to pursue may be decided by not knowing what else to do.
Whatever your decision, the most important factor is agreement between the partners, not only because cooperation, understanding and support are vital to keeping stress levels down, but also because it could mean the difference between having a genetic child or not. From the point that you choose assisted conception you enter a different world; one where your daily life centres on the fertility clinic. For working men, the clinical, inconvenient scheduling, financial and sexual aspects of trying to conceive while being treated, put them into unfamiliar territory and cause stress. Women will physically experience all of that, and possibly, mood swings, pain, invasive procedures and fear that time is running out as well.
The decision-making shifts to:
- Are you happy with the doctor/clinic you started with?
- Should you try less invasive treatment first, or go straight to IVF?
- Should we try complementary therapies before, or alongside, traditional medical treatment?
- How will you pay for your treatment?
- When should you begin treatment?
- Can this be managed around your work and/or other obligations?
- How many embryos do you want to implant?
- How many times will you undergo treatment?
These questions may have the two of you at a new crossroads every week. While some people may sail through and others agonize, it’s more likely that some decisions will bring up unexpected issues. Pay really close attention how you are both functioning. Your emotional state is important: Do either of you feel stressed, resentful, guilty, desperate, depressed, or hopeless? Is one of you leaning one way and the other in another direction? Are you fighting? That is where mutual respect, communication and agreement come into play.
Lisa Marsh is a Fertility Coach working with people on all aspects of fertility, including female and male infertility, pregnancy loss, assisted conception, alternative means of family-building and menopause. Visit her blog http://yourgreatlife.typepad.com or her website http://yourgreatlife.co.uk for more information. For coaching, email lisa@yourgreatlife.co.uk
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Going in Circles With Infertility and Stress - Part Two
30/09/2009 by yourgreatlife.
Take a Time-Out to Control Your Stress
Liken the accumulation of stress from infertility to a traffic accident in which the first car stops suddenly. No one has been injured and the damage from the two-car accident is contained, but neither of the parties has put out flares signalling danger. As a result, each successive car behind them piles up, multiplying the level of damage. Similarly, small signs of stress like nail-biting or cranky behaviour, may seem harmless, but you don’t have to be falling apart to internalize damage. If your ultimate goal is to become pregnant, your initial, short term goal must be to lower your level of stress, clearing a space for the work to begin. Then, keep it clear throughout your attempt to conceive.
If you are aware of areas of your life in which stress shows up, the next step is to acknowledge the stressor and change your response to it. When you feel your personal signs of stress creeping up, you can deal with them on the spot by practicing this short visualization technique I call a time-out.
Time-Out – I call this visualization a time-out because all it takes is excusing yourself for a few minutes. When you become practiced at it, it feels like you have had a mini-holiday. It is useful in a few ways.
- Replacement - By focusing on an image in your “mind’s eye,” you block out the image corresponding to your stressor.
- Relief - Placing yourself within the positive image/scenario you have chosen, and imagining its sights, sounds, smells and tastes, helps to break the emotional connection you felt in response to the stressor.
- Rapid - It’s a quick fix, free of cost and no prescription needed.
- Restorative - It is very empowering. Mastering the visualization allows you to re-gain control of your stress and restore calm.
Take Two - A 2-minute visualization exercise can be slipped into your daily life without attracting attention. Whether you are working, busy with your family, at a party or involved in a project, it is easy to slip away for two minutes at a time. Any Time, Anywhere – Privacy and safety are the two required elements, in order to allow you to break the connection with your current environment. Be creative; you can find privacy in the busiest places: empty offices, walk-in closets, the loo or even sitting in the car on your own driveway. In order to reach that quiet space inside, it may take four or five minutes at first, but with some practice, you will be able to reduce the time it takes to regain control to about two minutes. Please use caution and do not practice it while driving. Pull the car over to the side of the road if necessary. Define Your Image – Close your eyes. Isolate a specific image, real or fantasy, which evokes a 100% positive feeling. If an image of your last beach vacation, however lovely, brings up the nagging feeling that you didn’t look great in your bikini, it isn’t the right image for this exercise. Your image can be a frozen moment in time, such as the kiss at your wedding ceremony, or a conjured image of a beautiful place you will go in the future. Let your mind play on this image, vivid detail and colour, sharpening the detail. Imagine that you can smell the air, hear the sounds and even taste something that is evocative of the memory or fantasy of your choice. This image should make you smile. The emotions evoked by your image might be peace, happiness, confidence, contentment, hope or a mixture of other positive feelings. Write Your Story – Silently, describe the scene to yourself as if narrating a script. For example: “I am dressed in white, on the silvery-grey, wooden deck of my house. I am looking down at miles of virtually empty beach. The ocean is deep blue and turquoise; the sky melts into the horizon. The late afternoon sun is making millions of white, jewelled ribbons dance on the water. I see a few people walking or sitting and enjoying the peaceful day.” Now you know mine; it’s your turn. Make it as real in your mind as you can. Are your feet bare? What is the surface under your feet? Is your skin cool, warm or hot? What do you hear, smell and taste? Are you alone, or with others?
A Good PlaceTo Begin Every Day - Use your Time-Out to start each day until it becomes habit and you can fit the exercise into two minutes. This works well for clearing any non-specific stress; you know, the feeling that you want to crawl back under the duvet rather than face the day. A good place for this is in your morning shower, because it’s private, you feel the pleasant sensation of the water and it blocks out most noise.
Step by step:
- Relax - Close your eyes and breathe fully and slowly several times. Concentrate on your breathing for as long as it takes to empty your mind enough to begin the visualization. Invite your positive image into your mind, filling out “the frame” with the context that envelops that beautiful image.
- Drop yourself in to your visualization. If you are a fan of Star Trek, you can imagine “beaming down to the planet.” I prefer to use a different technique: It feels as if an artist suddenly changed a 2-dimensional picture into a 3-dimensional environment that you can enter. Imagine that image slip like a liquid over your head and down your body until you see yourself clothed and positioned as you were during the first Time-Out.
- Become One with your image - Focus on and isolate each part of your body and “feel” them connect with the physicality of air, earth or water in the place you imagine yourself to be. Direct your mind to travel up your body, recognizing the sensations you feel, from toes to shoulders, and then out to each hand, up your neck and to your head.
- Emotionally connect to your image – allow yourself to recognize the feelings conjured by your visualization. This is like “getting into character” for your own dramatic performance. Are you: euphorically in love? Flush with success? Comforted by an embrace? Peaceful and still? Dazzled by beauty? Exhilarated by speed?
- Lock it all in - Bring your arms up and wrap them around yourself. First you were part of a positive image; now draw that positivity into you and lock it in with a hug. I find that the physical embrace centres and comforts me. Try it, especially if you have been feeling tired, lonely, fearful or shaky. If you are not in a private enough space, you may feel it is enough to just clasp your two hands together in a firm grip.
- Acknowledge that you will have challenges during the day and that you are strong enough to embrace them without fear of over-reacting. Then, shake your arms out and slowly open your eyes.
- Repeat your visualization however often you feel the need.
If ever you can’t relax enough to bring up your Time-Out image, use props and your other senses to give you a prompt:
- When you open your eyes, write down what you saw in your mind’s eye, in a very descriptive way. This is one place that the gratitude journal really comes in handy. Knowing that you are doing something positive for yourself is very empowering. The physicality of writing and seeing your description on paper will further anchor the image and your positive response to it, and you will have it to look back at if need be.
- Practice your visualization while holding a talisman in your hand. Then whenever you feel stress rising, hold and rub it between your fingers. I use a tiny silver ball with the faint, twinkling sound of chimes, to trigger both visual and auditory memories of my happy place.
I would be very interested to hear from you about your use of the Time-Out exercise; what your image is and how well it works as a stress reliever.
My blog is http://yourgreatlife.typepad.comMy website is http://yourgreatlife.co.uk Contact information: 020 8954 2897 or lisa@yourgreatlife.co.uk
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Going in Circles With Infertility and Stress - Part One
16/09/2009 by yourgreatlife.
Moderate stress is part of the human condition, however, one serious stressor such as infertility, can truly disrupt our lives and make the difference between a good year (substitute “decade,” if applicable) and a bad one. The irony is that stress is often cited as a serious factor in infertility. It’s the old chicken and egg question…which of these came first. You may never answer that question, because you could initially have felt stressed by such common factors as the rigors of your job, difficulties in your relationship, financial insecurity, moving house or simply that you are a worrier. Whichever it is, if you are struggling with uncertainty about whether you will ever have a child and want to give yourself every chance of success you must look at the symptoms of your stress and find ways to lessen them.
Loss of identity - With infertility, women are confronted with two serious blows to their identity. The first is the endangerment to their life plan, including hopes and expectations of having a child or children of their own. The second blow is to their image as a woman, which includes the perception that their body is letting them down by not functioning as it should. This in turn affects their sense of femininity and sense of purpose. Who am I, if not a mother? Who am I, if my body won’t do what it is supposed to do?
Lack of control – Infertility propels women into a world of blood tests, unfamiliar medical jargon, drug therapy and/or surgery. Not only can they be devastated by their diagnosis, but also by their measurement against a Rate of Success chart. You are no longer you; now, you are geriatric (40 & over?), obese, poly-cystic, have unhealthy eggs, anti-cardio whatever and/or “unexplained” infertility. While weight, nutrition and bad habits can be improved, we can’t turn back the hands of time or produce another supply of eggs. To any woman who has even the slightest tendency toward perfectionism, this categorization, entry into the mind-boggling medical system and the inability to control her own reproductive function can be dehumanizing. Even the strongest woman can find herself feeling helpless, isolated and dependent, all of which are incredibly stressful.
Where stress shows up – Stress, from any source, is cumulative and can affect other psychological and/or physiological areas of your system. Just as stress from your job can turn around and bite you from behind, lessening your efficiency at the workplace, stress from infertility can affect your reproductive health. Common areas that show symptoms of serious stress are:
- Appetite and weight – either losing or gaining them substantially
- Sleep – not having enough of it
- Concentration and organization – the loss of which can affect productivity and safety
- Emotional stability (neediness, wide-ranging emotions, desire to isolate yourself, jealousy, self-esteem, guilt, anger, etc…)
- Headaches
- Digestive system
- Blood pressure
- Menstrual cycle – you must ovulate properly and on schedule to achieve best chance of conceiving
- Personality – a rollercoaster of emotions; acting out
- Relationships – arguing, feeling unsupported, worrying about the future together
- Reliance upon unhealthy habits to calm you – smoking, drinking alcohol, etc…
- Temperament – whether low, disinterested and negative or self-centred, volatile, even bitchy
Both the stress and its symptoms are real and can cause temporary or long-lasting damage, so don’t brush them off. If you can identify with any of the symptoms above, it’s time to find your way out of this maze.
Acknowledging Stress – Since your ultimate goal is to become pregnant, your primary, short term goal must be to acknowledge and then lower your level of stress. Look at how you are performing in your job, your relationship and friendships. Have you been in denial about how well you are coping with the strain of infertility? Perhaps you can remember uncharacteristic emotional outbursts, sudden tearfulness, and snappish responses. A little of this is normal and quite understandable, until it begins to impact upon the very things you need to safeguard: your health and your support network. If you notice that people are walking on eggshells around you, it’s a pretty good clue that you are not coping well with stress. Be careful. Patience may run out if you start to indulge in primadonna behaviour, expecting special treatment all the time. You need all the support you can get, so don’t alienate those who are standing by to offer it.
There are several things you can do to help yourself if you are suffering from stress due to infertility. How do you know for sure if this pertains to you? Self-awareness is essential, but if you are not particularly good at it, ask someone you like and trust to be honest with you.
- Begin a gratitude journal. A truly miserable person will find this difficult at first, however, even if (or especially if) you fit that description; the focus on the positives will also have a cumulative effect. Record the simplest or mundane events in your day if you must, such as “the sun is shining, my bus was on time and I haven’t gotten my period yet.” Eventually, you may find gratitude for enough things in your life and even those connected to your infertility, like “met a new friend in the doctor’s waiting room.”
- Try acupuncture, making sure to find a practitioner who has knowledge of your condition.
- If you are in fertility treatment, schedule the scans and blood tests for early morning to get them out of the way, leaving you with the rest of the day to live your regular routine.
- Talk about it. See a fertility coach or counsellor with whom you can release your pent-up stress. Their objectivity, confidentiality and support make sessions a safe place to talk about your thoughts and feelings and work out your options. It gives your partner and friends a break too.
In Part Two, I show you how a visualization exercise I call a time-out can be a quick, easy and independent way to lower your stress level.
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Female Fertility Tips
06/07/2009 by admin.
As we did a quick round up of the current health tips for men to maximise their fertility we only thought it fair to do one for women so here goes:
- Make sure you are having sex around your fertile time. The fertile window for women is very short and so this step is crucial.
- Use a sperm friendly lubricant when you are having sex around your fertile time. Many popular lubricants can damage sperm and inpair their motility, so make sure you use one that has been created for couple trying to conceive. Click here to find out more about sperm friendly lubricants.
- Take a folic acid supplement either alone or as part of a pre-conceptual vitamin and mineral supplement
- Aim for a healthy weight. Being overweight or underweight can reduce your fertility.
- Give up or reduce smoking
- Reduce stress & make time for relaxation
- Reduce alcohol intake & check with you doctor or pharmacist to see if any medicines you are taking could impair your fertility
- Exercise moderateley (avoid overexercising as this may impair fertility)
- Eat a healthy balanced diet, with lots of fresh fruit and vegetables
- Enjoy sex
(arousal & female orgasm may increase the chances of conception)
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Do food packaging chemicals (PFC’s) affect female fertility ?
07/03/2009 by admin.
Just read this really interesting article online from January 2009 ,and wanted to share it with you.
A recent study has suggested that chemicals found in food packaging, pesticides & household items may be linked to reduced fertility in women. The study was performed on 1240 women at the University of California Los Angeles (UCLA). The scientists found that those women with higher levels of the chemicals (PFCs) in their bloodstreams took longer to conceive than those with lower levels.
Click here to read the article
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