Whats in your self care tool kit ?

There are times in all our lives when we are under stress and everything starts to feel overwhelming. This is often when we are in a permanent state of ‘fight or flight’ and it is during these times that you need to have a good self care tool kit.

During times of extreme stress, good self care and making time to take care of yourself in little ways every day, becomes increasingly important.

Here is my self care tool kit i.e. the things I do when things start to feel overwhelming.

Do something physical-exercise is a great way to use up the hormones released by the fight or flight response

  • For me getting out in the fresh air and taking my dogs for a walk is a great stress reliever.
  • Gardening
  • Take a Pilates or exercise class
  • Go for a run
  • Go swimming
  • Housework can be surprisingly effective if done to some uptempo music

Spend time on hobbies

  • Spend time doing the things you love to do and that make you smile even if its just for 15 minutes a day. Those 15 minutes add up !

Do something relaxing

  • Hot bath by candlelight with calming music is a favourite of mine
  • Watch a chick flick
  • Cook or bake-this can be surprisingly relaxing if it is not pressured.
  • meal out
  • Take a Yoga or mindfulness session

Do something you have been putting off that you will feel better after you have done it

  • Tidy or re-organise your wardrobe
  • Clean out a cupboard or drawer
  • Declutter-very therapeutic

Meet up with friends

  • organise to meet for coffee or lunch or just a walk & talk
  • organise a girls only shopping trip
  • Join a book group

Plan something to look forward to

  • Maybe a weekend away
  • a meal out
  • have friends over for dinner
  • a holiday
  • a trip to the beach
  • a day trip somewhere new

Book some pamper treats just for you

  • a manicure or pedicure
  • a facial
  • a massage (very relaxing )
  • hairdresser

Learn something new

  • Attend a course
  • try a new hobby
  • Listen to an audiobook-I love audiobooks and find them very relaxing and reinvigorating.

Take care of your health

  • Book any healthcare or dental appointments you have been putting off


  • talk to someone close either a family member or friend about whats stressing you
  • consider an online support group
  • join a support group
  • Join your local church

Your self care tool kit may be very different to mine. Its what works for you. Write a list and look at it when things start to feel overwhelming, and remember to practice some self care every day.

In our busy over scheduled days it can be all too easy to forget to look after our own needs both physical and spiritual. Make it an appointment in your diary to do something nice for yourself each day. That way it is more likely to happen.