So you are trying to conceive and it is taking longer than you had hoped. Where do you go for fertility support ?
You want to talk to someone about it but all your friends are either pregnant or have kids already, or you may feel a little uncomfortable or shy talking to them about it.
If you have read the great ‘mars and venus books’ by John Gray, you will know how important it is for us venusians to be able to talk about our problems, and to feel heard. If you have not read the books I highly reccomend them-they are excellent, quite amusing and have helped me understand my man and myself so much better. They are available on itunes as a audio book and I love them-listen to them all the time especially when my dh goes in his cave (you know what I mean girls)
Anyway I digress
Q Where do you go for friendship and support on your fertility journey ?
A The fertility forums
What is a fertility forum you may be asking yourself ? Well an online forum is an online community of like minded people with a shared mission, interest, hobby or passion.
In the case of a fertility forum they are all trying to conceive and are nearly always women. I am not sure I have ever seen a man on a fertility forum although there must be some out there. If you go into a car owners forum or a computer techie forum they are nearly all men with one or two women. There are forums for just about anything you can think of-even housework, but that is the subject of a whole other blog.
Lets get back to fertility forums:
There are lots of fertility forums out there and it is just a question of picking the ones that fits you best.
What to look for in a fertility forum (or any forum to be honest):
- plenty of active members (there is nothing worse than being the only one in there-it feels really lonely and sad-I speak from experience here)
- plenty of posts (I personally like chatty forums-I guess thats why I love to blog-lol)
- good listeners in the forum (every forum needs its share of good listeners)
- plenty of problem solvers in your chosen forum is always good (sometimes you just need advice or help-I use a technical support forum for my pc and the guys in there are amazing-they know so much more than me. I have also used a forum a for particular make of car and they diagnosed the problem with my car without me even having to visit a garage and I fixed it myself !! A very proud moment for this dizzy blond)
- it should feel good in there-like a warm cosy blanket-you should feel good after you have been on and feel empathy for the other members
I’m sure there are lots of other things to look for in your chosen forum but these are just the things I look for.
See my blogroll at the side of this blog for links to the UK fertility forums